The only reason any person in their right mind would subject themselves to such torture is because they would have to really believe that that particular medicine could sooth or cure what ailed them! Therefore, they are willing to pull up their bootstraps and march through the horrible taste, to the glorious & victorious destination of the cure?
So, how do mature adults handle breakup pain? If you really want to get back with your ex, you can use breakup pain like a medicine that aids in that process, and here are some useful tips on how to use it correctly.
The medicine of breakup pain may be used in only 1 of 2 ways--that's the good news (it's not rocket science). Either it can make you BITTER OR BETTER. This is BITTER----->
(You don't want that do you? :-D)
Pause and really think about that a moment. You can't think of another way can you? That's because this is TRUTH, and there is no way to get around it, so accept it and
let's move on to BETTER--------------------->
First you must RECOVER from the trauma of breaking up with your ex. It's okay to "feel the feelings", but don't allow your feelings to dictate your actions. The primary way that people all over the world cope with losing their ex is writing-reading sad love poems. Take a moment to Google it. You will discover over 100K+ searches a month! Writing or reading sad love poems is one of the most effectively cathartic means of using breakup pain as a medicine to heal a broken heart while considering getting back with your ex. Within the secrets of your writings, you may discover the real reason that you broke up in the first place and, you may uncover a poet or scintillating author under that heaving blanket of breakup pain!
Once your emotions are controlled effectively, you will be able to think more clearly. Thereby gaining a logical perspective by which to analyze your relationship with your ex. Perspective is key when you attempt to understand. Therefore, you may choose to look at your break up from the healthy upright position of truth rather than from the fetal position of grueling pain. Things look a lot bigger than they really are from the embryonic position.
I must digress here --We are constantly AMAZED by people who implement these first few steps! Once the TRUTH is accepted, they've made the decision to be BETTER, and began cathartic writing for their emotional state, their mental acuity clears to crystal clarity as they proclaim, "I never saw 'it' that way before!" Once their "it" is identified, the next step toward healing and reconciliation is easily implemented. However there is one more baby step before complete healing is achieved, that is...
Understanding and forgiveness! A very wise old doctor once said to me, "Pain, whether real or imagined--is still pain, and pain signals ignored can cause crippling injury to the body. It's nature's warning signal that something is wrong." He added, "...And the part that hurts may not be the actual source of the pain."
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