
What were the steps that caused your ex boyfriend to break it off with you? He may have been saying it all along, but sometime we just don't hear it...or don't want to. Did he say it outright or did he say something like, "I just need space...." or "I don't know what you want from me!" Or could you feel him just slowly drift away from your love, then one day he was just gone... Does that pretty much sum it up?
The steps he took to leave, can be turned into the stepping-stones for his return, did you know that? Think you're ready to set the first stepping-stone by absorbing this good information on how to make the first steps to getting my ex boyfriend back in my arms?
Then congratulations you found the right article! You have already learned to confront this common relationship problem head-on, which takes real courage! Otherwise, you'd just settle. But not you...you want the best way to learn how to make the first steps to get your ex boyfriend back, so let's handle business...shall we?
No doubt you may be on that whacky "E" ticket ("E"=Emotional) roller-coaster of "I love him--I hate him". You have lots of anxiety about getting your ex back? Let's begin by breaking up the hard ground and then smoothing it over to get a level surface to place your first stone, hmm?
Do an honestly assessment of how you are acting toward him right now. If you are trying to "force" the issue and rekindle the romance immediately by calling--texting way too much, or trying to make him feel sorry for you, please stop it right now!
Those kinds of manipulative actions automatically prohibit taking the first steps to get your ex boyfriend back in your arms, thereby making it impossible to create stepping-stones for his return! Say that last sentence out-loud to yourself right now, repeat as needed.
The nature of the human heart actually dictates the exact opposite response that you desire when you apply that kind of pressure! For example, if you keep after him, he will either crumble (pity...feel obligated, instead of actually wanting to be with you), push back (have you declared a stalker. Ever heard of a "Restraining Order"?...hmm, could be), or flee (bye to the bye-bye). He WILL NOT, however, give you his whole heart or love you the way you desire to be loved in return under your manipulation....get it? He will resist it and probably FORCE him to slam--deadbolt the door & pour gasoline on the stepping stones and light it with one of your old Victoria's Secret bras!
However, by learning how to make the first steps to get my ex boyfriend back, makes it much easier...by quietly & strategically placing those return stepping-stones in his path. This can greatly increase the odds a romantic reunion naturally.
Introducing a bold new approach...it takes a little courage (but you've proven that you have that already ;-))
Begin by ending communication period...find something else that interests you. Change your focus to your own life and ways you can give it a make-over. Do you remember how to surprise yourself? It may not be as challenging as you think to NOT dwell on relationship stuff. You just might discover something wonderful about yourself!
While you are doing your thing...you ex will have time to "shift gears" in his emotions regarding you. He may never openly admit it, but he will notice your absence of pursuit of him. Listen up, nothing works to re-peak a man's interest in you like time, curiosity, & mystery! These things may really work in your favor and change the odds of rekindling romance drastically.
In other words, give the man time to "miss you". He can't miss you if you are all over him all the time can he? This can work to re-charge his curiosity and the mysterous allure that guided him your way in the first place. And if he calls, keep it brief, non-informative, and always have "something else to do" to cut the conversation short.
Suggestions for short conversations: Always drop something you know he loved about you. For example, if he always mentioned that he loved your perfume, let him know that that "something else to do" is shopping for a new scent and don't give him time to respond before you hang up with a pleasent, "gotta go". It totally subliminal in the human heart and mind! New scent, New you....get it? BTW, When IS the last time you went shopping for a new signature scent? Why not treat yourself today?
Remember what the human heart--pressure lesson? Please remember this #1 stone-stepping concept when repairing a breakup or in any relationship-- "Work with the heart, not against it." That takes precedent over any advice given on how to make the first steps to get my ex boyfriend back in my arms.
Proceed now to get your first step in place & keep building...it will give your ex time to realize why he pursued you in the first place, provide you with more mystery and allure and improve your own emotional being and self-worth at the same time! Allow him to make the first move (that might go against your feminist views, but so what?). If you want him back, allow him to be the man (part of a man's heart--nature is to pursue...but, don't run too fast! And please don't throw the stepping stones--LOL!).
There you have it! Today, you have initiated construction of how to take the first steps to get my ex boyfriend back in my arms, and the "how" & "why" you should avoid those relationship-threatening mistakes.
May you discover all the love your heart desires!